The way to get clear about what you need (and create a life that is wholesome, joyful & free.)

Is the life you’re residing proper now the life you truly need?

It’s not a query we at all times dare to ask ourselves, as a result of fairly frankly….we would not like the reply.

And but, once in a while, I believe it’s essential to step again and take a look at the larger image and get sincere with ourselves about the place we’re at proper now…..and the place we need to go.

It’s truly the query that impressed me to place collectively my upcoming FREE workshop,

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As a result of so typically we simply get STUCK not transferring ahead as a result of making an attempt to determine easy methods to get from the place we’re proper now to the place we need to be simply feels so huge and so arduous and so overwhelming.

So if you happen to haven’t had an opportunity to register but, make sure to do this HERE, as a result of it’s going to be superior. Actually.

However as I’ve been getting ready for this workshop, it’s had me pondering SO MUCH about this subject of simply residing a life that’s wholesome, joyful & FREE and what that really means.

As a result of it’s an enormous deal.

And it’s additionally made me understand that with a purpose to truly CREATE the life you need, to search out that well being and happiness and freedom, you’ve bought to get some CLARITY on what that really appears like.

I discuss to SO many ladies that inform me they only don’t know what they really need.

I believe it’s possibly this stage of life that so many people in our 40s and 50’s and even past that get to, the place we’ve spent the final 20 or 30 years simply making an attempt to lift our youngsters and pursue our careers and do all of the issues, after which all of a sudden we get up sooner or later and understand that life is passing us by and our youngsters don’t want us as a lot as they used to and but we haven’t actually spent any time deliberately pursuing the issues that matter to us or crafting a life that feels significant.

It’s like there’s this void and we don’t know easy methods to fill it. We don’t even completely know what it’s that we would like, we simply know that there’s part of us that looks like one thing is lacking. So we simply preserve doing all of the issues, hoping that sometime it would all make sense.

However over the course of my very own journey, which I speak about in additional element on this week’s podcast episode, what I’ve realized is you can run and run and run and preserve operating from your self and from all of the issues you are attempting to keep away from, however finally it WILL catch as much as you.

There WILL be a reckoning.

One thing will occur that may pressure you to reevaluate the place you’re at and the place you’re going, like a mirror being held up in entrance of your face, the place you’ll be capable of see your self clearly and also you’ll need to ask your self “do I like what I see?”

For some folks it’s a tragedy. For others it’s shedding your job or getting divorced or dealing with a monetary disaster or perhaps a world pandemic.

And all of the sudden you’ll understand that it’s essential get clear about what you actually need.

Why Readability Issues

As a result of right here’s the factor…..with out readability, you’ll solely ever be DRIFTING.

And imagine me, it’s simple to float. Truthfully, most of us spend our entire lives drifting, probably not certain the place we’re going or why.

We simply undergo the motions, doing what’s anticipated of us and what everybody else is doing. We comply with tendencies and societal norms with out ever stopping to query if it’s truly what we would like for ourselves.

However drifting is harmful. As a result of if you’re not actively steering your individual ship, you possibly can simply find yourself in waters you by no means wished to be in.

And the worst half? You gained’t even understand it till it’s too late.

Readability, alternatively, is sort of a compass that guides us in the direction of the life we really need. It helps us make choices and take actions that align with our values and objectives. It provides us a way of course and goal.

So readability issues. A LOT. In actual fact, it could be crucial factor you ever do for your self.

However then, in fact, the query turns into HOW.

How are you going to truly get clear about what you need?

There’s truly just a few steps I like to recommend that you just take.

Step One: Self-Assess

Step one to getting clear is to take a great, arduous take a look at your self and your life and the place you’re at proper now. And actually, this isn’t at all times a straightforward course of. It’s that holding up the mirror, and generally–if you happen to understand that you just don’t completely like what you see, it may be just a little painful!

So what would occur if you happen to gave your self a rating, on the size of 1-10, within the following areas of your life proper now?

Well being

On your well being rating, a ten would imply you’re utterly happy together with your present well being and weight. You feel and look your very best, you’ve bought countless quantities of power, and also you’re freed from continual ache, irritation, digestive points, and mind fog. You don’t suppose it will be potential to look or really feel any more healthy than you do proper now.

On the opposite finish of the spectrum, a 1 would imply you’re utterly UNsatisfied together with your present well being and weight. On the BMI scale you’re categorised as overweight or chubby, and also you’re combating quite a lot of well being points, together with presumably Sort 2 Diabetes or pre-diabetes, irritation, hypertension, excessive ldl cholesterol, heartburn, continual ache, continual fatigue, and mind fog. Basically, you’re deeply involved about your well being proper now.

And chances are high, you’re someplace in the course of these two extremes. However if you happen to have been to consider it and truly give your self a quantity, what would it not be?


Then, to your happiness rating, a ten would imply you are feeling completely joyful and happy together with your life more often than not. Your relationships are good, you will have a deep sense of which means and goal, you snigger repeatedly, you’re motivated and energized, and also you frequently hunt down alternatives for private progress.

Or, on the opposite finish of the spectrum, a 1 would imply you are feeling utterly UNhappy or dissatisfied together with your life more often than not. You battle with despair and anxiousness, lack wholesome & constructive relationships, really feel caught and unmotivated, and have hassle envisioning something completely different than your present state of affairs.

And once more, it’s seemingly that your rating would fall someplace in between these two extremes, however if you happen to actually cease to suppose the place you’re at when it comes to happiness and satisfaction in your life proper now, what would that quantity be?


After which, to your closing quantity–your FREEDOM rating–a ten would imply that proper now you are feeling utterly free to pursue your objectives and goals, with out feeling like there may be something holding you again. You say sure to new alternatives. You dare to take dangers, and don’t really feel fearful or burdened by outdoors occasions or different folks’s expectations. The folks round you assist your objectives and cheer you on.

Or, on the opposite aspect, a 1 would imply that proper now you are feeling utterly caught to the purpose you’re unable to even take into consideration pursuing any objectives and goals. You end up consistently saying no, even to actions and pursuits that you just used to take pleasure in. You keep away from dangers and infrequently end up consumed with worry and anxiousness about world occasions or different folks’s ideas and actions. You don’t really feel like you will have a great assist system round you.

So to your freedom rating, the place does your quantity fall?

(And simply so you understand, you’ll truly get entry to a workbook with this evaluation and a few extra useful reflection questions as quickly as you , so make sure to do this immediately.)

In order that’s actually step one… bought to be sincere with your self about the place you’re at proper now.

Step Two: Ask Your self What You Need

The subsequent step, then, is to really spend a while enthusiastic about what you really need in every of those three areas of your life–well being, happiness, and freedom.

And whereas that sounds easy, it’s not, particularly if you’re feeling overwhelmed and caught and not sure

However you must FORCE your self to really begin enthusiastic about it.

And actually, it might probably’t simply be pondering in your head. It is advisable to journal on it. Lots.

You’ve bought to ask your self the query, again and again, “what do I need?”

A number of years in the past, as I used to be going by means of my very own private identification disaster, that is precisely what my husband stored saying to me.

He’d ask, “honey, what’s that you really want? You don’t appear joyful. What does successful appear like to you? What do you actually need?”

After which an in depth good friend advised me that I wanted to journal EVERY DAY on the identical 2 questions–”what do I need, and what’s it going to take to get there?”  She advised me that the extra I journaled on simply that query, the extra readability I’d be capable of discover.

She was proper. They have been each proper. I’m fortunate I’ve good folks in my life giving me actually good recommendation, as a result of it was precisely what I wanted.

And in order that’s the recommendation I’m going to present you too. In case you want extra readability then it’s essential sit with that query. What do I truly need? What do I need for my well being? What do I need for my happiness? What do I need for my freedom?

In order that’s step two–ask your self what you need, again and again.

Step Three: Make a Plan

The third and closing step, when you’ve began to get extra readability on what it’s you truly need, is to make a plan to get there.

As a result of the fact is that almost all the pieces you need out of life IS potential, even the issues that really feel unimaginable proper now.

I believe so typically we simply shut ourselves down earlier than we’ve even gotten began as a result of we simply get overwhelmed or impatient, when the fact is that there’s little or no any of us aren’t able to with sufficient effort and time and focus.

I say this on a regular basis, however huge objectives by no means occur all of sudden. They’re solely EVER the results of small steps taken persistently over time. And so to make these huge objectives occur, you simply have to determine easy methods to break it down into manageable bites.

That’s actually all a plan is. It’s this huge factor that you really want, damaged down into smaller and smaller items you can truly deal with separately.

The best way I typically like to do that in each my enterprise and my private life is to take a look at a BIG purpose, and suppose, “if I have been to attain this purpose, what are the 5 issues that must occur, the 5 main milestones I would want to make occur first? After which from there, I break down every of these 5 main milestones into 5 smaller milestones. And what I find yourself with is principally a roadmap for what I need to do.

And from there it’s only a matter of conducting every step.

Whereas that may sound too simplistic to really work, it’s truly extremely highly effective. 

So make a plan–that’s step three. However solely AFTER you’ve gotten readability on the place you need to go.

A Few Remaining Ideas

Getting readability made me understand what truly issues in my life, and what’s really essential to me.

It restored my marriage. It reworked my well being. It modified the main target of my enterprise, and even how I function as a frontrunner. It reworked my friendships and helped create a lot extra pleasure and FUN in my life. And it reignited my religion and my religious journey too.

There isn’t part of my life that isn’t higher because of getting extra readability.

And I promise it might probably do the identical for you.

So be a part of me subsequent week–both November fifth or sixth for my , and within the meantime get your workbook and DO the prework! 

It’s going to be a recreation changer, and I can’t wait to see you there!

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